rowliv: 2011-04-10

"MEN WITH APPEAL SERIES"

I have kept you waiting for far too long, so I will get right down to business. First of all, I want to say that this is not a book neither are the tips given here a complete course. This is only to get you started. This is the top ten fundamental and this is why we have to get started right now. So, here goes…

THE TIPS

Know who you are

This is the starting point of all journeys in life. The very foundation. Knowing who you are consists of figuring out your likes, dislikes, dreams, desires, and fears. This is known as Self-awareness. Important ingredient as no girl wants a guy who has the list sense of who he is.

Figure out your strengths and weaknesses

More like an extension to (1). Strengths consist of traits, abilities, possessions that give u the advantage or upper hand to move ahead and get what u want, weaknesses on the other hand consists of traits, handicaps, and probably habits that stand in your way of moving ahead. Once u figure the left and right side of your checklist, know how to use your strengths to your advantage and your weaknesses to learning.

Figure out the best parts of your physical looks

It does not matter how u were made. The greatest fun I had, was when I started looking for beauty in every woman who was dimmed ugly…..i found it. Either she had the cutest eyes, sweetest lips, fairest hair. The next step was to help the girl up through the league by making her make the best parts stand out…yes it worked. Within a week, she would be flooded with guys. Where did the market come from? So, that is how the game is played. In short, u have the full power to choose what the world notices about you while u hide those hated parts and aspects by enhancing the catchy ones. Just look at how our women fool us, (if she knows she has a great bust, she will wear the kind of clothes that enhance, and it will take a while before u notice that her legs are quite a site.) learn from that.

Figure out your fashion

Not every great thing out there looks good on you. It’s not about what is nice on the display but what is nice on you. Let the man in the mirror determine what the man looking at him should wear. Clothes have to match with your height, skin colour, body build, body size, hair style…etc. If u can, come up with a style that suits u, even it does not exist internationally, neither has a label, that’s well known! And just make sure when u have it, u really dedicate to putting it on well.

NOTE: Just by changing your wardrobe, u raise your market by a whooping 35%.

Be efficient.

Try to make everything you touch turn to gold. Keep your promises; give people a reason to call upon you for a second time. There is nothing as catchy as a man any lady can trust to do what he says he will do. He will be there when he says he will. He will help where he says he can, he will not cross a boundary of romance when he says he won’t.

Be a perfectionist

However, do not look at the world as perfect coz no one is. Do not settle for giving less than u can, but still know that everybody is always less than their own standards. In short be a little hard on yourself, but know that failure can be part of the puzzle. When you mean to do something, outdo yourself or the one before u. Try however not to pull so much of your weight. You are trying to get admiration not to frustrate people. So, do not reward yourself too much publicly. This more like the personal gauge, keep it that way!

Know when to apologize

It is tempting for a guy to be all strong, bulldoze every situation and have it your way. We are bound to cross the line and end up on the wrong. So, do yourself a favour and know how to humble yourself and get ahead. You will be surprised that you actually gain more respect and people draw closer to you because, by effect, you are considered to be realistic when you admit that you are just as human and can err. So, what you might consider a losing strategy becomes your winner.

RESPECT WOMEN

One way or the other, women control the world and so, if you can make them happy, you will get ahead much easy. You have to note though that not every rule about women work for all women. However, the cut across ones are my ‘a,b,c’ Check list below:

a) Every woman wants to feel special. Regardless of whom this treatment comes from. So, you have to watch how you look at, talk to, and speak with them. Make every moment count and you will be surprised how quickly they begin to miss you.

b) Do not rush women into anything. Even if they may ultimately like it. Your aim should be to attain and maintain a certain level of trust. Coz, at the end of the day, even if they like whatever you have made them do, they have a tendency to look back at how it all got to where it is and if they discover that they were driven, forced or even tricked there, they will forever live not to trust your every move. But if you let them take themselves, while you lead, they will always trust you to make the best choices in their best interest.

c) Learn to Listen. This is where most guys have it figured out wrong. They want to talk all the way, as though they were the DJ in the relationship, affair, or friendship. You may not make a good conversationalist either but you are better off learning how to listen. It is by listening that you understand women, not by what you hear on a radio talk show or read in a book. Every woman, will tell you what she wants if you can only learn to listen more actively. It’s the best manual you could ever have tailored to each woman

BE SHARP

Be observant, be alert, be attentive, be precise, be the ultimate, be clear. Life is most often learnt as it is lived. So, play in real time. Coz there may not be enough preparation time before you face life’s challenges. Be the kind of bachelor who thinks on his feet and can live in a moment as if he was born just for that moment.

This is only a preview copy. Extensive and helpful material is available in the complete “men with appeal series” by Zack Rowliv KM (Coach)