Thursday 7 April 2011
The National Problem Of The Zambian Youth
The biggest problem, which is national by the way, being faced by the Zambian Youth and which it has to overcome is DISUNITY. The Youth of Zambia is not united and as such it is failing to make meaningful contribution to the national growth and wellfare of the nation. The Youth of Zambia is divided along partisan lines. Any way, this is typical of multiparty systems. In systems were you have one party setups, youths are united under one umbrella of the single party. We experienced it in Zambia under the KK era of One Party Participatory Democracy. Youths had one programme which was planned by the Ministry of Youth and Sport, if I remember correctly. This is the reason why, youth revolutions succeeded in such one party systems because youths were already united and organised and easily shared sentiments. Even now we can see what is happening in the Arab World where the youth is organised under unipolitical setups. All the same, the Youth of Zambia has to do something. The Youth of Zambia must come up with a National Agenda that will address this partisan divide. (To be continued ...)
Monday 4 April 2011
THE SEX ‘TRI’-LEMMA
(A sequel to THE SEX DILEMMA)
For once in my lifetime, I have a reason to say "it depends on where you come from."Sex, one of, if not the topmost human pleasure experience and activity and yet the most controversial and cultured aspect of almost any earthly society is the main serving of today’s discussion menu.How could one activity be so nice and yet so complex? It has the ability to bring both pain and pleasure; it can bond and separate, it can attract and also create strong repulsions.It is Physical, Emotional and Biological; a blessing and a curse. When was the last time you knew something that was so ‘all in one?’ I mean, this act in itself even has the power to relieve headaches!!Awesome eh!
The purpose of this article is to explore sex across societies and to prove that female orgasm is well tied to how sex is approached in each culture and prepared for in every society.
THE GRIM RIPPER.This thought just crossed my mind: in some African setups(particularly-most tribes in my country-Zambia) the man acts more like the grim ripper and sex is the soul, he can come home in the middle of the day, say over the lunch break period and say to his wife, "iwe! tiye kukati" (you! lets go inside). It does not matter whether she is entertaining guests, she will have to give up everything she is doing coz "the ripper" has come to get his due. No foreplay whatsoever. I should also take a moment here to mention that dry sex is preferred try by some predominant cultures. And the woman is, for fear of being tagged ‘icamenshi’(watery), forced to either sit in salt and vinegar or use herbs to tighten and make dry her vagina for her mate. One sided pleasure here again. I mean, a woman getting wet, is already her portion of pleasure but even that is also robbed from her……’ripped!’
CANDLE LIGHT. In the western and eastern worlds, (as seen by the Indians fully expressed teachings of the ‘kama sutra’), female orgasms are ultimate intended end of the act. It’s about her. She is the only creature in the human species created to last long enough to continue with intercourse even after she has cum, and therefore should be served first. That way, the man doesn’t fall asleep through the whole event. Isn't it just logical that it should be that way? That if your candle has a tendency of burning out quickly, it should be lit last? It is a powerful knockout which not so many men can survive. Hormones are released at that point of ejaculation which induce sleep. That is why they are almost instantly knocked unconscious. Thank goodness, the Indians came to our rescue again by teaching methods on prolonging energy(but that is not my focus right now. request for the discussion if interested) What is unique about this culture is that both come to the event to both give and take. The woman has mastered foreplay for the man and so has the man for the woman. This is unlike the usual ‘foreplay is only to make the woman ready’. The man is also taken through a preparatory foreplay. This works for mutual benefit, since foreplay on the man will make his erection far harder and slightly larger than always is(in case u didn’t know this)
This is not the end…but the beginning, we will be back to this discussion soon!
This is only a preview copy. Extensive and helpful material is available in the complete“THE SEX DILEMAN, THE SEX ‘TRI’-LEMA SERIES”by Zack Rowliv KM (Coach)
resources also include www.parentsask.com, and www.associatedcontent.com
Ask at
© Zack RowlivKasalu (Family life and Youth Coach)
For once in my lifetime, I have a reason to say "it depends on where you come from."Sex, one of, if not the topmost human pleasure experience and activity and yet the most controversial and cultured aspect of almost any earthly society is the main serving of today’s discussion menu.How could one activity be so nice and yet so complex? It has the ability to bring both pain and pleasure; it can bond and separate, it can attract and also create strong repulsions.It is Physical, Emotional and Biological; a blessing and a curse. When was the last time you knew something that was so ‘all in one?’ I mean, this act in itself even has the power to relieve headaches!!Awesome eh!
The purpose of this article is to explore sex across societies and to prove that female orgasm is well tied to how sex is approached in each culture and prepared for in every society.
FOR EXAMPLE
SEX SLAVES.In some African cultures, sex is a service rendered to a husband. In short, it is all about the man. When he wants it and how he wants it. The woman has no say in the matter. Actually her very say in the matter is taboo. If she asks for it, she is 'a whore', if she displays any jaw dropping skills in bed; she is ‘probably a harlot’. In such a cultural setting it is rare to focus on pleasing the woman, coz she is only the gateway to a man’s orgasm….that’s all.
KNOWLEGE IS POWER: Upon reaching puberty, boys of Mangaia (one of the Cook Islands) are given sexual instruction - including many details of positioning, and delaying their own satisfaction so that their partner women may experience multiple orgasms. It is obvious that this society has broken the trend and focuses on mutual satisfaction. I call it mutual coz u cannot please a woman without ending up happy yourself.
IT’S JUST A BED BATTLE. In Zambia, let’s face it, Sex is like bed competition. The only reason that a man will look for libido aid drugs is that he
doesn't want to be outdone and have his reputation massacred when the women meet to discuss their sex lives. That’s because, for some reason, bad sex news has a way of traveling fast. I know this coz I have countless times spoken to men who are desperately hunting for Viagra, seven days…etc. To the average man, to hear a woman moan in bed or ultimately pass wind is a sure sign of conquest. While it may be that, because of the long lasting erection effects of the drug, the woman may eventually climax, it is not the primary aim of the man!...Mostly
CEREMONIES(AWAKENING YET OUT OF SYNC). Surprisingly, there are more growth and maturity ceremonies held for the woman than for the man. The woman is trained twice how to "handle a man": first, when her first menstrual cycle is sighted; second, just as she prepares for marriage.Then, there are smaller celebrations in which the woman is really enlightened about sex. By the time she is getting into marriage, she is an orgasm machine-a sex goddess!However the case, men remain dominant. Even if they are not equally trained for this mutual sex life. Therefore chances are the woman might not ever have the opportunity to try out what she was taught coz the man most likely steals the show and calls the shots. Wasted Ceremonies!KNOWLEGE IS POWER: Upon reaching puberty, boys of Mangaia (one of the Cook Islands) are given sexual instruction - including many details of positioning, and delaying their own satisfaction so that their partner women may experience multiple orgasms. It is obvious that this society has broken the trend and focuses on mutual satisfaction. I call it mutual coz u cannot please a woman without ending up happy yourself.
IT’S JUST A BED BATTLE. In Zambia, let’s face it, Sex is like bed competition. The only reason that a man will look for libido aid drugs is that he
doesn't want to be outdone and have his reputation massacred when the women meet to discuss their sex lives. That’s because, for some reason, bad sex news has a way of traveling fast. I know this coz I have countless times spoken to men who are desperately hunting for Viagra, seven days…etc. To the average man, to hear a woman moan in bed or ultimately pass wind is a sure sign of conquest. While it may be that, because of the long lasting erection effects of the drug, the woman may eventually climax, it is not the primary aim of the man!...Mostly
THE GRIM RIPPER.This thought just crossed my mind: in some African setups(particularly-most tribes in my country-Zambia) the man acts more like the grim ripper and sex is the soul, he can come home in the middle of the day, say over the lunch break period and say to his wife, "iwe! tiye kukati" (you! lets go inside). It does not matter whether she is entertaining guests, she will have to give up everything she is doing coz "the ripper" has come to get his due. No foreplay whatsoever. I should also take a moment here to mention that dry sex is preferred try by some predominant cultures. And the woman is, for fear of being tagged ‘icamenshi’(watery), forced to either sit in salt and vinegar or use herbs to tighten and make dry her vagina for her mate. One sided pleasure here again. I mean, a woman getting wet, is already her portion of pleasure but even that is also robbed from her……’ripped!’
CANDLE LIGHT. In the western and eastern worlds, (as seen by the Indians fully expressed teachings of the ‘kama sutra’), female orgasms are ultimate intended end of the act. It’s about her. She is the only creature in the human species created to last long enough to continue with intercourse even after she has cum, and therefore should be served first. That way, the man doesn’t fall asleep through the whole event. Isn't it just logical that it should be that way? That if your candle has a tendency of burning out quickly, it should be lit last? It is a powerful knockout which not so many men can survive. Hormones are released at that point of ejaculation which induce sleep. That is why they are almost instantly knocked unconscious. Thank goodness, the Indians came to our rescue again by teaching methods on prolonging energy(but that is not my focus right now. request for the discussion if interested) What is unique about this culture is that both come to the event to both give and take. The woman has mastered foreplay for the man and so has the man for the woman. This is unlike the usual ‘foreplay is only to make the woman ready’. The man is also taken through a preparatory foreplay. This works for mutual benefit, since foreplay on the man will make his erection far harder and slightly larger than always is(in case u didn’t know this)
RESPONSE
After conversing with a few ladies, the conclusive collection is that women are growing tired of where culture places them, especially, when in a culture that places them below the men. They are so ready to break loose of culture and establish their own in their homes if only they can find a man who is willing to share the sentiment. Some women on the hand are fine with it, as one said to me, "that is how we are taught and that's the way it is"CONCLUSION (for now)
Regardless of where you are raised on the human planet, you will soon realise how tied sex is to culture and how ultimately female orgasm is dependent on where you are placed in the cultures of man. It is now in your hands. Will you break free of inhibiting cultures or stay bonded? Is your husband flexible and willingto look at what will be best for your marriage or is he a spellbound, hypnotised, and staunch follower of traditions without reason? What shall your future be based on?Are you willing to put into your sex life the mutual pleasure giving ingredients as it was originally designed? This question is for men! Men with their women’s orgasms in their hands. What will you do with it today?This is not the end…but the beginning, we will be back to this discussion soon!
This is only a preview copy. Extensive and helpful material is available in the complete“THE SEX DILEMAN, THE SEX ‘TRI’-LEMA SERIES”by Zack Rowliv KM (Coach)
resources also include www.parentsask.com, and www.associatedcontent.com
Ask at
http://rowliv.blogspot.com, Rowliv@gmail.com;www.facebook.com/rowliv
and http://www.youtube.com/user/rowliv, call or text +260-977-260-742
© Zack RowlivKasalu (Family life and Youth Coach)
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